~New Year's Kiss~
In some cultures, there is a tradition of kissing someone at the stroke of midnight on New Year's Eve. When the clock strikes twelve couples spontaneously embrace for a kiss to celebrate the upcoming year. Some hold the superstition that failing to kiss someone when the ball drops ensures a year of loneliness. Whether this is true or not, most people kiss their significant other in joyous celebration of the beginning of a new year.
I pray that everyone love more laugh more and live more in the new year. =) HAPPY NEW YEAR!!! =)
~Love and be Loved
Friday, December 31, 2010
Thursday, December 30, 2010
Relationship Tips For Keeping Love Fresh
It seems like so many people wait for one day in the calendar year to get around to telling their mate how much they love them. Are a dozen roses once a year supposed to make up for 364 days of the same old same old? What can we do to keep our relationship fresh? I´ve heard men say, "I´m not an artist or a poet, so I cannot come up with romantic ideas." I´m going to pop out a few ideas to assist in keeping your relationship fresh throughout the year. Yes, you can be known as a "romantic" without too much effort.
Some ideas for you:
Copyright 2005 by Keith Leon
~Love and be Loved
Some ideas for you:
- Who doesn´t love to receive a nice, heartfelt greeting card? Now, how about picking up a card that says, "I love you" on just a regular day. Not Valentines Day, not a birthday, but because you remembered to stop and pick up a card!
- Write, "I love you" on a stack of little post-it notes and hide them all over the house in clever places. Perhaps, in places that will not be seen for months to come, such as the sock drawer, the bottom of the vitamin container, in a purse or inside the medicine cabinet. It is fun to find these notes! Take my word for it.
- Touching is good! The human touch is a healer. As often as you can remember, place your hand on his/her knee, shoulder or hand. Foot rubs are great, and shoulder rubs are relaxing. When was the last time your lover held your face in their hands? Remember that first kiss? Re-enact it today!
- The surprise picnic is a classic that will never get old. Ask your mate´s boss if you can steal them away for a long lunch one day, then do a surprise picnic in the park. It shows that you are willing to go the extra mile to keep the love alive.
- Do things that are out of the ordinary. If you typically do not do the dishes, do the dishes. If you do not think you are a poet, attempt to write a poem. Your mate will be blown away that you tried to stretch your "comfort zone" to do something nice for them - and believe me, the poem does not have to be good to get the credit for the attempt.
- When was the last time you had breakfast in bed? Remember that? How about getting up early, and making breakfast for your mate. Surprise them with breakfast in bed. This is one of my personal favorites!
- Flowers are good, especially if there is no special occasion. Notice, I put this one last because it´s the easiest to do. I don´t think it ranks up there with all of the creative things mentioned above. But, if you have done all of the before mentioned things and you´re looking for variety, then flowers will work.
Copyright 2005 by Keith Leon
~Love and be Loved
Wednesday, December 29, 2010
12 New Years Resolutions Every Couple Should Make [Part-2]
6) Strive for emotional honesty. Even the bluntest among us has avoided explaining feelings to a lover at one time or another. It can be hard to share with your partner (especially if you're experiencing a thorny, irrational emotion like jealousy) but it's important that you keep your mate in the loop so that he can act appropriately. Saying "I feel" instead of "you made me feel" will help you and your partner stay focused on resolving the negative emotions without it turning into a blamefest.
7) Nuke multitasking. When you're spending time with your sweet, banish buzzes, bleeps and chirps from your computer and phone. Don't scroll through your texts while your partner is talking to you, or IM a friend while you're supposed to be planning dinner. You may think you can do two things at once, but when you do, you're sending your partner the message that they're not worth your full attention. If you both have things you must do on your phone or computer, set a block of time aside to accomplish the tasks, and then move on with your evening (and don't even think of counting your tech time together as a 'date'!).
8) Treat your partner as well as you treat your friends. It's easy to take your romantic partner for granted, and sometimes we don't treat our lovers as well as we should. Like family, we assume that they're in it for the long haul and when we're stressed, our romantic relationships that take extra abuse. Ask yourself if you say or do things to your partner that you wouldn't do to your best friend, and if you discover that you do, adjust your behavior accordingly. And, remember, it takes practice to change a habit; don't give up if you don't change overnight
9) Listen. Don't nod automatically as he talks. Don't wait for your turn to speak. Don't do the dishes while he tells you about his day. Sit down, look him in the eye, pay attention to what he says, and ask follow-up questions. This is one of the best things you can do for your relationship. Active listening is a skill that has to be honed with time and effort, but it's incredibly important. Work at it.
10) Criticize less than you praise. When you spend a lot of time with someone, it becomes easy to overlook the things that are great about them. Instead of dwelling on his bad habits, remind yourself of the reasons you fell for him in the first place. Then remind him! Couples who have been together for a long time tend to forget to compliment one another. Try to dish out three compliments for every criticism, and don't be shocked if he mirrors your actions. Shared appreciation breeds kindness and consideration, and what couple couldn't use more of that?
11) Break a bad habit together. If you and your man share a habit that's less-than-great for you, help one another break it instead of encouraging the behavior within your relationship. Instead of nudging one another outside for smoke breaks, make a pact to limit yourselves to a certain number of cigarettes a day. If you drink too much together, make a two-drink rule and try to stick to it.
12) Play! One of the worst things about being an adult is the total lack of juice boxes, naptime and recess. (What's up with that?) Thankfully, the dullness of the workday world doesn't have to extend to your personal life. Infuse your partnership with a sense of play. Have pillow fights, talk in funny voices, and draw mustaches on the models in your ladymags. Do something creative together... take a guitar class, throw pottery, or learn to roll sushi. Whatever. Stepping outside of your routine can bring you and your partner closer, and it'll ensure that things never get boring between you.
....May your relationship grow stronger in 2011!
~Love and be Loved
7) Nuke multitasking. When you're spending time with your sweet, banish buzzes, bleeps and chirps from your computer and phone. Don't scroll through your texts while your partner is talking to you, or IM a friend while you're supposed to be planning dinner. You may think you can do two things at once, but when you do, you're sending your partner the message that they're not worth your full attention. If you both have things you must do on your phone or computer, set a block of time aside to accomplish the tasks, and then move on with your evening (and don't even think of counting your tech time together as a 'date'!).
8) Treat your partner as well as you treat your friends. It's easy to take your romantic partner for granted, and sometimes we don't treat our lovers as well as we should. Like family, we assume that they're in it for the long haul and when we're stressed, our romantic relationships that take extra abuse. Ask yourself if you say or do things to your partner that you wouldn't do to your best friend, and if you discover that you do, adjust your behavior accordingly. And, remember, it takes practice to change a habit; don't give up if you don't change overnight
9) Listen. Don't nod automatically as he talks. Don't wait for your turn to speak. Don't do the dishes while he tells you about his day. Sit down, look him in the eye, pay attention to what he says, and ask follow-up questions. This is one of the best things you can do for your relationship. Active listening is a skill that has to be honed with time and effort, but it's incredibly important. Work at it.
10) Criticize less than you praise. When you spend a lot of time with someone, it becomes easy to overlook the things that are great about them. Instead of dwelling on his bad habits, remind yourself of the reasons you fell for him in the first place. Then remind him! Couples who have been together for a long time tend to forget to compliment one another. Try to dish out three compliments for every criticism, and don't be shocked if he mirrors your actions. Shared appreciation breeds kindness and consideration, and what couple couldn't use more of that?
11) Break a bad habit together. If you and your man share a habit that's less-than-great for you, help one another break it instead of encouraging the behavior within your relationship. Instead of nudging one another outside for smoke breaks, make a pact to limit yourselves to a certain number of cigarettes a day. If you drink too much together, make a two-drink rule and try to stick to it.
12) Play! One of the worst things about being an adult is the total lack of juice boxes, naptime and recess. (What's up with that?) Thankfully, the dullness of the workday world doesn't have to extend to your personal life. Infuse your partnership with a sense of play. Have pillow fights, talk in funny voices, and draw mustaches on the models in your ladymags. Do something creative together... take a guitar class, throw pottery, or learn to roll sushi. Whatever. Stepping outside of your routine can bring you and your partner closer, and it'll ensure that things never get boring between you.
....May your relationship grow stronger in 2011!
~Love and be Loved
Tuesday, December 28, 2010
Teena Marie ooo la la la
Teena Marie, a celebrated R&B singer-songwriter, was found dead Sunday at her California home, her manager said. Born Mary Christine Brockert in Santa Monica, California, the 54-year-old artist famously paired with late funk legend Rick James and was nominated four times for a Grammy Award, according to her official website.
Marie was found dead by her daughter after apparently dying in her sleep, manager Mike Gardner said.
"Teena was a black voice trapped in a white body," said Cathy Hughes, founder of Radio One, a broadcasting company that targets African-American and urban listeners. "I would always tell her that she was one of the greatest vocalists of our time."
Among her songs were "Lovergirl," "Portuguese Love," "Ooo La La La," and "I'm a Sucker for Your Love."
While no cause of death has been released, the singer's publicist Lynn Jeter said that Marie suffered a grand mal seizure -- a neurological event, marked by loss of consciousness and violent muscle contractions, according to the Mayo Clinic -- a month ago. "Luckily, someone was there," Jeter said of that seizure. "The ambulance took her to the hospital, and on the way she had another seizure."
The publicist said that she had a "great" conversation on Saturday with Marie, who told her that she was excited about heading to Atlanta to perform this week -- in what would have been her first performance since the seizure.
Marie sang under various record labels, including Motown, Epic, Stax Records and Cash Money Classics, since bursting on the scene as a 19-year-old, according to her website. Her last studio album, Congo Square, featured several collaborations. Eddie Levert, founder of the vocal group The O'Jays, praised Marie as both a singer and mother. "There are a lot of black people who swore by her and believed in her, as far as her music was concerned," he said. "She was a good mom, and to me, that is saying a lot.''
[-By the CNN Wire Staff]
This is a favorite of mine....I hope you all enjoy! R.I.P. Teena Marie.
~Love and be Loved
Marie was found dead by her daughter after apparently dying in her sleep, manager Mike Gardner said.
"Teena was a black voice trapped in a white body," said Cathy Hughes, founder of Radio One, a broadcasting company that targets African-American and urban listeners. "I would always tell her that she was one of the greatest vocalists of our time."
Among her songs were "Lovergirl," "Portuguese Love," "Ooo La La La," and "I'm a Sucker for Your Love."
While no cause of death has been released, the singer's publicist Lynn Jeter said that Marie suffered a grand mal seizure -- a neurological event, marked by loss of consciousness and violent muscle contractions, according to the Mayo Clinic -- a month ago. "Luckily, someone was there," Jeter said of that seizure. "The ambulance took her to the hospital, and on the way she had another seizure."
The publicist said that she had a "great" conversation on Saturday with Marie, who told her that she was excited about heading to Atlanta to perform this week -- in what would have been her first performance since the seizure.
Marie sang under various record labels, including Motown, Epic, Stax Records and Cash Money Classics, since bursting on the scene as a 19-year-old, according to her website. Her last studio album, Congo Square, featured several collaborations. Eddie Levert, founder of the vocal group The O'Jays, praised Marie as both a singer and mother. "There are a lot of black people who swore by her and believed in her, as far as her music was concerned," he said. "She was a good mom, and to me, that is saying a lot.''
[-By the CNN Wire Staff]
This is a favorite of mine....I hope you all enjoy! R.I.P. Teena Marie.
~Love and be Loved
Monday, December 27, 2010
12 New Years Resolutions Every Couple Should Make [Part-1]
1) Do "Good Things" together (and not just around the holidays). Everyone feels generous around the holidays, and in December, soup kitchens get so many volunteers that they have to turn helpers away. These organizations need volunteers desperately at other times of the year, so you and your sweetie will make a huge impact if you skip the Christmas day goodness and volunteer year-round instead. If you're a Christmas lover, do your good deeds on the 25th of each month. It's the gift that keeps on giving!
2) Eat mindfully. When you're coupled, it's easy to cozy up on the couch and shovel down Chinese food while watching movies. Not only does this habit pack on the pounds, but it skips the fun and intimacy that can come with preparing and sharing food, too. Choose healthy recipes, and make your date nights special by cooking and eating together. Better than an overpriced restaurant any day!
3) Sweat together. If you're part of a tubby tandem and serious about ditching extra pounds, enlist your partner as a workout buddy. If you're not overweight, exercising with your partner is still a great way to improve your overall health. And everyone knows that the rosy cheeks and heavy breathing exercise brings reminds us of other things that involve rosy cheeks and heavy breathing. Speaking of which...
4) Make sexytime a priority. When we're busy, sex can get lost in the shuffle, but it's too good for your relationship, your health, and your mood to skip. Make time to reconnect with your partner in the sack by scheduling a weekend "staycation." If the sex has become lackluster, put some energy into figuring out how to make it exciting again. It might be a new position, a new toy, or just a straight-up change of venue (kitchen, anyone?).
5) Stop squabbling. If you have a serious beef with your partner, it's important to bring it up, but try to avoid petty arguments and insults. One nitpicky fight isn't a big deal, but over time, small backbiting comments can erode the foundation of your relationship. Pick your battles. When you sense a fight on the horizon, try to calm yourself momentarily and ask "Is this worth disturbing the peace for?"
6) Strive for emotional honesty. Even the bluntest among us has avoided explaining feelings to a lover at one time or another. It can be hard to share with your partner (especially if you're experiencing a thorny, irrational emotion like jealousy) but it's important that you keep your mate in the loop so that he can act appropriately. Saying "I feel" instead of "you made me feel" will help you and your partner stay focused on resolving the negative emotions without it turning into a blamefest.
~Love and be Loved
2) Eat mindfully. When you're coupled, it's easy to cozy up on the couch and shovel down Chinese food while watching movies. Not only does this habit pack on the pounds, but it skips the fun and intimacy that can come with preparing and sharing food, too. Choose healthy recipes, and make your date nights special by cooking and eating together. Better than an overpriced restaurant any day!
3) Sweat together. If you're part of a tubby tandem and serious about ditching extra pounds, enlist your partner as a workout buddy. If you're not overweight, exercising with your partner is still a great way to improve your overall health. And everyone knows that the rosy cheeks and heavy breathing exercise brings reminds us of other things that involve rosy cheeks and heavy breathing. Speaking of which...
4) Make sexytime a priority. When we're busy, sex can get lost in the shuffle, but it's too good for your relationship, your health, and your mood to skip. Make time to reconnect with your partner in the sack by scheduling a weekend "staycation." If the sex has become lackluster, put some energy into figuring out how to make it exciting again. It might be a new position, a new toy, or just a straight-up change of venue (kitchen, anyone?).
5) Stop squabbling. If you have a serious beef with your partner, it's important to bring it up, but try to avoid petty arguments and insults. One nitpicky fight isn't a big deal, but over time, small backbiting comments can erode the foundation of your relationship. Pick your battles. When you sense a fight on the horizon, try to calm yourself momentarily and ask "Is this worth disturbing the peace for?"
6) Strive for emotional honesty. Even the bluntest among us has avoided explaining feelings to a lover at one time or another. It can be hard to share with your partner (especially if you're experiencing a thorny, irrational emotion like jealousy) but it's important that you keep your mate in the loop so that he can act appropriately. Saying "I feel" instead of "you made me feel" will help you and your partner stay focused on resolving the negative emotions without it turning into a blamefest.
~Love and be Loved
Saturday, December 25, 2010
All I Want For Christmas Is You -Mariah Carey
This is my favorite Christmas song...I hope you enjoy it....enjoy your loved ones and have a wonderful day! =)
~lOVE 2 B lOVED
Thursday, December 23, 2010
Lyrics Of The Week
FIRE & DESIRE
Wow
Its really good to see you again, baby
And I must admit youre looking very, very, very nice these days
I guess life must be treating you well
Oh, me
Well, Ive just been doin the same ol thing Ive always been doin
You know, Ive got a new lady now
And its a little different then it was when I was with you
You know, I think back to when we met
The way I use to be and the cold way I use to act
But more than that. I think of how you changed me with your love and sensitivity
Remember when I used to
Love them and leave them
Thats what I used to do
Use and abuse them
Then I laid eyes on you
It was pain before pleasure
That was my claim to fame
With every measure, baby
Tasted teardrop stains, yeah
I was cold as ice long ago, baby, baby
I wasnt very, very, very nice, you know
Sugar, sugar, sugar
Then I kissed your lips
And you tuned on my fire, baby
And you burn me up within your flame
Took me a little higher
Made me live again
You turned on my fire, baby
Then you showed me what a love could do
Fire and desire, baby
Feel it comin through
And I thank you, baby
Oh, how I thank you, baby
You taught me so much
And you showed mw so much and love and insensitivity
That since youve been gone I dont think Ive ever felt this way before
You know its funny how a man can change
So quickly from a cold blooded person
Thinkin hes God gift to women
Remember how I use to do that
I must have been crazy then
Remember when you used to
Love them and leave them
Oh, thats what I used to do
Use them and abuse them, whoa
Then I laid eyes on you
It was pain before pleasure
Oh, that was my claim to fame
With every measure
Tasted your teardrop stains, yeah
You were cold as ice (Woo...hoo...hoo...hoo...), baby, baby
(I-I wasnt, I-I wasnt very nice, I know, woo...)
Sugar, sugar, sugar, sugar
Then I kissed your lips
And you (You turned on) turned (You turned on) on
(You turned on my fire) my fire, baby (Ooh...)
Then you showed me what a love could do (Woo...hoo...)
Fire and desire (Fire and desire)
Feelin good to you (Feelin good to you)
You turned on my fire (Fire, ooh...ooh...), baby (Oh, baby)
And you burn me up within your flame (You burn me, you burn me)
Fire and desire (Fire and desire)
And were both to blame, both to blame (Ooh...ooh...)
You know
I guess I think we both said a little too much today (No, ooh...hoo...hoo...)
After all Tee, youre kind of with somebody else
Im kind of livin with somebody (Ooh...ooh...ooh...)
But please do me a favor just before you go (What is it, baby)
Just put your arms around me and hold me like you used (I wanna hold you tight)
Tell me "Rick" (Oh...oh...) "Everything is gonna be alright"
(Everything, everything, everything is gonna be alright)
Put your arms around me
Put your arms around me (Ooh...)
(Ooh...ooh...)
Oh, baby (Woo...ooh...ooh...)
Oh, baby (Ooh...ooh...ooh...ooh...ooh...ooh...ooh...)
(Ooh...ooh...ooh...ooh...oh)
~Rick James and Teena Marie
Wow
Its really good to see you again, baby
And I must admit youre looking very, very, very nice these days
I guess life must be treating you well
Oh, me
Well, Ive just been doin the same ol thing Ive always been doin
You know, Ive got a new lady now
And its a little different then it was when I was with you
You know, I think back to when we met
The way I use to be and the cold way I use to act
But more than that. I think of how you changed me with your love and sensitivity
Remember when I used to
Love them and leave them
Thats what I used to do
Use and abuse them
Then I laid eyes on you
It was pain before pleasure
That was my claim to fame
With every measure, baby
Tasted teardrop stains, yeah
I was cold as ice long ago, baby, baby
I wasnt very, very, very nice, you know
Sugar, sugar, sugar
Then I kissed your lips
And you tuned on my fire, baby
And you burn me up within your flame
Took me a little higher
Made me live again
You turned on my fire, baby
Then you showed me what a love could do
Fire and desire, baby
Feel it comin through
And I thank you, baby
Oh, how I thank you, baby
You taught me so much
And you showed mw so much and love and insensitivity
That since youve been gone I dont think Ive ever felt this way before
You know its funny how a man can change
So quickly from a cold blooded person
Thinkin hes God gift to women
Remember how I use to do that
I must have been crazy then
Remember when you used to
Love them and leave them
Oh, thats what I used to do
Use them and abuse them, whoa
Then I laid eyes on you
It was pain before pleasure
Oh, that was my claim to fame
With every measure
Tasted your teardrop stains, yeah
You were cold as ice (Woo...hoo...hoo...hoo...), baby, baby
(I-I wasnt, I-I wasnt very nice, I know, woo...)
Sugar, sugar, sugar, sugar
Then I kissed your lips
And you (You turned on) turned (You turned on) on
(You turned on my fire) my fire, baby (Ooh...)
Then you showed me what a love could do (Woo...hoo...)
Fire and desire (Fire and desire)
Feelin good to you (Feelin good to you)
You turned on my fire (Fire, ooh...ooh...), baby (Oh, baby)
And you burn me up within your flame (You burn me, you burn me)
Fire and desire (Fire and desire)
And were both to blame, both to blame (Ooh...ooh...)
You know
I guess I think we both said a little too much today (No, ooh...hoo...hoo...)
After all Tee, youre kind of with somebody else
Im kind of livin with somebody (Ooh...ooh...ooh...)
But please do me a favor just before you go (What is it, baby)
Just put your arms around me and hold me like you used (I wanna hold you tight)
Tell me "Rick" (Oh...oh...) "Everything is gonna be alright"
(Everything, everything, everything is gonna be alright)
Put your arms around me
Put your arms around me (Ooh...)
(Ooh...ooh...)
Oh, baby (Woo...ooh...ooh...)
Oh, baby (Ooh...ooh...ooh...ooh...ooh...ooh...ooh...)
(Ooh...ooh...ooh...ooh...oh)
<3 ~Love and be Loved
Wednesday, December 22, 2010
Last Minute Christmas Ideas For Your Man
Top 10 Last Minute Christmas Gifts for Men via fabuloussavings.com
Don't worry about last minute Christmas presents for your boyfriend or husband - men are easy to shop for, especially with a handy guide. So when the clock's ticking, fall back on these last minute Christmas gifts for men. But be sure to save on your surefire winner with FabulousSavings coupons!
1) Gadgets: Find a guy who says he's not into tech toys, and you've found a liar. Artsy guys covet cameras. Geeks love games. Outdoorsmen want handheld GPS units. Bookworms dig digital readers. So save on all these gadgets with Amazon.com coupons.
2) Home Electronics: Grab Best Buy coupons to save on last minute Christmas gifts for him that always bring huge grins: new TVs, surround-sound setups, Blu-ray players or satellite receivers. Sunday's football games and movies never looked so good.
3) Watches: As far as last minute Christmas gift ideas for dad go, a watch makes a practical - and sentimental - choice. Every time he checks the time, he'll think of his beautiful family. Order a fashionable or sporty timepiece for less with Ice.com coupons.
4) Hoops, Hockey or Football Tickets: Pick his favorite winter sport and save on tickets to an upcoming game with RazorGator coupons. Buy a few extra so he can bring along his buddies and have a day just for the dudes.
5) Car Gear: Auto parts and accessories are perfect last minute Christmas gifts for a boyfriend who loves his wheels. Check out JC Whitney for engine parts, audio components, MTV-style flip-down monitors and more.
6) Sports Gear & Apparel: Rule one for sports fans is that you need the gear to back up your talk. Whether he's an armchair QB or a pick-up hoops superstar, get him the jerseys and equipment he needs for less with Dicks Sporting Goods coupons.
7) Grooming: Even the burliest Grizzly Adams-type likes to feel clean and refreshed. Help your man look, feel (and smell) his best every day - shop with ZIRH coupons to save on shave and skincare products.
8) Shades: Grab Sunglass Hut coupons and let your leading man feel like a true movie star - Burt Reynolds with aviators, Tom Cruise in Ray-Bans or Lance Armstrong with Oakleys.
9) Clothing: Unless he reads GQ religiously, he'd rather leave fashion to the experts - like you! A sweater or jean may seem like a played-out gift, but if it saves him a trip to the mall, then he's ecstatic. Shop with Bluefly coupons to save on designer outfits.
10) Cap: Some guys likes to keep a baseball hat handy - others like to keep a hundred. Wherever the man in your life falls on this scale, find him a cool new cap at Lids.
~Love and be Loved
Tuesday, December 21, 2010
Dangerously In Love [LIVE] -Beyonce
This is my favorite performance of this song...this song is classic....enjoy!
~lOVE 2 B lOVED
Thursday, December 16, 2010
Monday, December 13, 2010
Saturday, December 11, 2010
Lyrics Of The Week: My Angel
My Angel -Anita Baker
Ooh... ooh... ooh... ooh... ooh...
Ooh... ooh... ooh... ooh... ooh...
Ooh... ooh... ooh... ooh... ooh...
Ooh... ooh... ooh... ooh... ooh... ooh...
If I could I'd give you the world
Wrap it all around you
Won't be satisfied with just a piece of this heart
My angel
Oh, angel
You're my angel
Oh, angel
Dreams are dreams, some dreams come true
I found a real dream, baby, when I found you
You're so strong, but tender too
You're my angel
Oh, angel
You're my angel
Oh, angel
Love like ours is heaven sent
Each day a day to remember
I feel so safe, feel secure with you
You give me love, you keep right on givin
Fill me up, baby, with the joy of living
When things get tough I can always turn to you
You're my angel
Oh, angel
You're my angel
Love the way we touch, I love the way it feels
Every time you're near me my poor heart just won't keep still
No doubt about that this love I feel is real
Ask me to go with you, you know I will
Hold me near, hold me tight
Only you can make it real, only you make it all right
Just let me know that I am special to you
My angel
Oh, angel
You're my angel
Oh, angel
You're my angel
Oh, angel
You're my angel
Oh, angel
You're my angel
Oh, angel
~lOVE 2 B lOVED
Friday, December 10, 2010
I'll Make Love To You -Boys 2 Men
Make Love...Not War =) ....This is a classic love making song...ENJOY!
~lOVE 2 B lOVED
Wednesday, December 8, 2010
Wake Up Everybody -John Legend, Melanie Fiona, Common, & The Roots
This is a GREAT re-make....ENJOY!
~lOVE 2 B lOVED
Tuesday, December 7, 2010
Clarifying Relationships [Part-2]
-Heavenly
Different Types Of Relationships:
[Friends With Benefits]- This is the type of relationship that is based on sex and really not much more. Two people have an understanding that they are not a couple..just friends...who have great sex together. They rarely (if ever) go out places together...just chill at either of their homes or a hotel room and have sex. This is the type of relationship many people would like to have but think that it is almost impossible to get so they pretend as if they want a more committed or more serious relationship because they think that is what they have to do to get sex on a regular basis. This is really not necessary...and why hurt another human being by tricking them into an empty relationship just so you can get regularly laid?? There are plenty of people who will gladly be in this type of relationship...as long as you be straight up and tell them what you want. People are often too scared to be honest with people about what they want, but as the saying goes "a closed mouth doesn't get fed"...how do expect something from someone if they don't even know you want it?...you can't.
[Dating]- When in this type of relationship there may be one or two other people that you may also be dating. At this point there is still no real commitment; this is really where you are trying to decide who you want to be in a committed relationship with. You might go on dates, just hang out with each other, and may or may not be having sex at this point, but it is understood between you and whoever else you may be dating that they are not the only one. You date people who you really enjoy and could potentially have a long lasting committed relationship with.
[Couple (semi-serious)]- This is a committed relationship!...and other people know that you have a significant other. You are only intimate with your partner and nobody else. Some people have what they call "open" relationships (if you can't tell...I'm not too fond of these but...) and that is fine as long as both of you are aware that is the case...do NOT try to be in a "one-sided open" relationship, where you are the only one allowed to be with other people because it is wrong and will always backfire on you!! Your partner may not have met everyone in your life but this is where you make sure the closest people to you (family and friends) know who your partner is and your partner should definitely be in the process of really being an important part in your life. You may or may not tell one another that you love each other yet...but it is clear that you care strongly for your partner and hope to have a long-term relationship with them.
[Serious Couple]-This is also a committed relationship...what makes this different from a semi-serious couple is that you may be living together and it also includes being engaged. Moving in with your partner is really a HUGE step, so it is imperative that you think long and hard about it as well as discussing with your partner the terms of you both living together...there are many things you will need to be clear on when making a move like this. At this point, your relationship normally has had its ups and downs but is stronger and you both are secure in your relationship....your relationship is pretty much solid(...solid as a rock! [lol]...) When you are a serious couple it should be no problem to tell your partner that you love them...your relationship at this point should be very comfortable for both of you...you should be able to talk to your partner about pretty much anything, fart around them, eat off each others plate, sleep together, know each others friends and family....things like that. Being a serious couple is like the step right before marriage...whether it is a "short step or a long step"...meaning just because it is the step before marriage does not mean marriage will have to come immediately..it may be years down the road..nevertheless, it IS the next step!
[Marriage]- This pretty much speaks for itself...marriage is a life long commitment...I know that nowadays it is not really viewed as such but that does NOT change the fact that marriage really is a sacred union to be respected and reserved for people in love. If you cheat on your partner at this point you are dead wrong!! Some married people have and "open" relationship...but when this is the case it is agreed upon beforehand by both of you....but open marriage or not...if you are not ready to make a life-long commitment to your partner to not propose or agree to get married...period!
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Sunday, December 5, 2010
Fight Less, Love More
Learn how to curb relationship arguments with this excerpt from Laurie Puhn, J.D.’s new book, “Fight Less, Love More: 5 Minute Conversations to Change a Relationship Without Blowing Up or Giving In”
Admit it, you've had a dumb argument with your partner. We all have. No more! To help you up your communication know-how, Harvard lawyer and couples mediator Laurie Puhn has written Fight Less, Love More: 5-Minute Conversations to Change Your Relationship without Blowing Up or Giving In. As Puhn explains, “Many of my clients have these foolish disagreements with their partner but they don’t realize it until I point it out to them." Below, an excerpt of her book reveals two common types of arguments couples often have--and how to avoid them the healthy way.1. The Dumb Premature Argument Hector and Maria live in an apartment but hope to buy a house someday. Every time they visit a friend who lives in a house, their drive home provides ample time for squabbling about whether they should buy a ranch-style home like the one Maria grew up in or a two-story colonial like the one Hector’s family had. They argue vehemently about the pros and cons of each style, but the silly thing is, they aren’t planning to move out of their apartment until their toddler is ready for kindergarten, at least 3 years from now. Even if they managed to argue their way to a decision now, in all likelihood they would have to reargue the same issue in 3 years anyway, because people’s preferences, incomes, and family situations change over time.
The Wise Tactic:
If the outcome of any argument can’t be acted upon for a long time, it’s a dumb premature argument. As much as you might want to voice your side now, you’ll only be wasting time and energy—and adding unnecessary conflict to your relationship. When you realize that you’re arguing about something that doesn’t need an immediate decision, it’s wise to short-circuit the fight by saying, “Why don’t we wait to have this discussion until we actually need to?” In the case of Hector and Maria, one of them simply needs to say, “Why are we wasting our time arguing about this now? Let’s make a pact not to debate our design preferences until we’re actually ready to buy a house!” This will give your partner the ability to retreat gracefully with a comment like “That’s a good idea. I don’t know why we started talking about this now anyway.”
2. The Dumb Factual Argument
My husband and I were driving to a 99¢ store to buy some party supplies. I mentioned, “You know, a lot of these so-called 99¢ stores charge more than 99¢ for many of the items they sell.”
“Not possible,” he said. “All 99¢ stores sell everything at that price. That’s why they’re called 99¢ stores.”
“That’s not true. You don’t know because you haven’t been to one. The 99¢ thing is just a way to get more people into the store,” I explained.
“Why would they call it a 99¢ store if it’s not one?” he shot back, still trying to convince me.
“Wait a minute,” I blurted out. “This is a dumb argument. We’re arguing about a fact. Why don’t we just hold on for 10 minutes, get to the store, and we’ll have our answer?” He agreed, so we shut our mouths and found the answer in the store. (I was right!).
The Wise Tactic:
Have you ever found yourself getting agitated because your partner says you’re wrong when you’re sure you’re right? Or have you found yourself trading “It’s true” and “No, it isn’t” until you’re both blue in the face? Those are all familiar set-up words for the dumb factual argument. Instead, when you are bickering about a fact like an address, a name, or a statistic, recognize this and say, “Hey, we’re arguing about a fact. Let’s just find out the information instead of fighting about it.” In less than 5 minutes, you’ll have your answer and avoid an argument over nothing.
-The 5-minute Conversation: Short-Circuit a Dumb Argument
1. Admit Your Error Switch gears as soon as you realize you shouldn’t have picked this foolish battle. Recognize that you are engaged in a premature argument or arguing about a fact, or any of the other common tiffs I discuss in my book Fight Less, Love More. Then, hold up your hands as if to surrender and admit your error with a simple comment that identifies why you’re having a dumb argument. For example, you could say, “Wait a second. I shouldn’t have said that. This is silly because we are having a dumb argument about something that’s a fact.”
2. No Buts About It If your mate doesn’t want to short-circuit the argument and tries to continue with a comment like “But just let me explain,” let him or her talk and then short-circuit the potential argument again by saying, “Well, that could be, but there’s no point in debating it.” Just keep up that response and your partner will eventually have to let the argument go.
Article Source:http://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-relationships/relationship-communication
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Saturday, December 4, 2010
Poem Of The Week: Yes
Yes
-Blue WaterYes
The word rolls from your lips
tickles the pulse of my neck
Your hands trace the curve of my body
Stirring the fire into a flames
slowly removing the fabric
That kept us separated
The warmth of your hands mold me hold me
Riding my mind into a storm
Your lips take me feeding my thirst
Yet draining me
The beat of your heart, becomes in tune with mine
Balancing, increasing the tempo dramatically
Oh how the pleasure of the passion leaves one
In a hopeless battle to say
Yes
Oh Yes
Yes
Oh Yes
Yes
Oh Yes again
-via Mr. Africa's Poetry Lounge
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Friday, December 3, 2010
Lyrics Of The Week: Love Sponge
This song never fails to make me smile. :)
Love Sponge
-Buju Banton
[Intro:]
Got to let this woman know its real
Exactly how the rudebwoy feel
Oh baby, Oh lady (a big bad rhythm)
Yeah
[Chorus:]
This one is called lovers choice
Never know yuh woulda really feel so nice, (love sponge)
I dont wanna let you go
With you im in no hurry (oh no)
[Repeat]
[Verse 1:]
Lord you are lovable, kissable
Desire the inevitable
Without your sweet caress im so damn miserable
Touch your finesse, feel the fur of your coat
Seen you walk away saying my eyes in smoke
You are dressible, lookable
All the man dem after yuh
They claim you do something they just cant explain
To the brain
Your man shouldnt have no complain
Oh no
[Chorus x2]
[Verse 2:]
Hey slow motion is the way for us to enjoy the day
Always taking time to listen what she got to say
She thinks I be spending too much time on the beat
I try to make her overstand thats how we eat
Darling don't quarrel with me, It hurts too easily
Dont be messed up by silly tendency
No no way
[Chorus x2]
[Verse 3:]
She mek a caan forget about the huging and squeezing
Ah feel as if im upside down in the ceiling
Confess, this girl is the ultimate thing
What it means to be loved, no need asking
Swing baby swing, while I continue sing
Your favrite song
Let's go dancing
Hey, chuh
[Chorus]
[Repeat from top]
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Wednesday, December 1, 2010
What is a Healthy Relationship Anyway?
-By Janet Woititz
“What does a healthy relationship look like? What does it feel like? How do I get one? How will I know if I have one?” These are very important and real questions that need to be addressed. Wanting to be involved in a healthy, intimate relationship is a universal condition. And defining just exactly what “healthy” is, is a universal question. You know you are in a healthy, intimate relationship when you have created an environment where:
1. I can be me.
2. You can be you.
3. We can be us.
4. I can grow.
5. You can grow.
6. We can grow together.
Essentially, that's what it's all about. It's paradoxical that a healthy relationship frees me to be myself - and yet I don't know who I am because acquiring self-knowledge is a lifelong process. Although you may not have a strong sense of who you are, you recognize clearly when you are NOT being allowed the freedom to be you. It is clear when you are feeling judged.
It is clear when you feel that you are walking on eggs. It is clear when you worry about making a mistake. In effect, the freedom to be you means that your partner will neither interfere with nor judge your process of being and becoming. You offer your partner the same freedom that you are asking for yourself. And you accept your partner as he is, and do not try to use the power of your love to turn him into a swan. You do not get caught up in your fantasy of who you want him to be, and then concentrate on making that happen. You focus on who that person really is. “I accept you unconditionally, and you accept unconditionally.” That's the bottom line. It does not mean that changes in personality or actions are undesirable or impossible - it merely means that you begin by accepting your partner as he or she is. “we are free to be us.”
Each couple defines their own relationship built on shared values and interests. First, they must decide what they each value as individuals and then they can build a oneness out of their separateness. Some of their differences are unimportant and can be either ignored or resolved. For example, issues such as, “You always leave the cap off the toothpaste,” or “I hate church socials,” can be worked out easily.
Other differences are significant and need to be worked out if the relationship is to remain healthy and survive. Examples of more critical issues are, “I don't want any children,” or “I'll never have anything to do with your mother again.” Many experiences are enhanced because the two of you are a couple. Enjoying together the beauty of a sunset, a walk on the beach, a well-prepared meal, are examples of the “us” that make a partnership desirable. I am enhanced when I have me, you have you and we also have us.
A healthy relationship creates an environment where I can grow. In this climate of support, I also encourage you to do the same. Through the directions of our individual growth, we develop together as a couple.
A couple also grows together by developing mutual goals and working together on ways to achieve them. Interestingly, it is the journey toward the goals, and not necessarily the goals themselves, which help the relationship grown. Whether or not you attain a goal is part of the process toward the next shared experience.
Intimacy means you have a love relationship with another person where you offer, and are offered, validation, understanding and a sense of being valued intellectually, emotionally, and physically. To more you are willing to share and be shared with, the greater the degree of intimacy.
A healthy relationship is NOT a power struggle. The two of you don't have to think the same way about things.
A healthy relationship is NOT symbiotic. You do not have to feel the same way about all things.
A healthy relationship is NOT confined to a sexual relationship which must end in orgasm, but one that celebrates sharing and exploring.
Article Source:http://www.enotalone.com/article/4139.html
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