Lyrics Of The Week: Always Be My Baby

Always Be My Baby
Mariah Carey


Do do doop
Do do doop do doop da dum
Do do doop dum
Do do doop do doop da dum

Do do doop
Do do doop do doop da dum
Do do doop dum
Do do doop do doop da dum

We were as one babe
For a moment in time
And it seemed everlasting
That you would always be mine

Now you want to be free
So I'm letting you fly
'Cause I know in my heart babe
Our love will never die, no

You'll always be a part of me
I'm a part of you indefinitely
Boy don't you know you can't escape me
Ooh darling, 'cause you'll always be my baby

And we'll linger on and on
Time can't erase a feeling this strong
No way you're never gonna shake me
Ooh darling, 'cause you'll always be my baby

Do do doop
Do do doop do doop da dum
Do do doop dum
Do do doop do doop da dum

I ain't gonna cry no
And I won't beg you to stay
If you're determined to leave boy
I will not stand in your way

But inevitably you'll be back again
'Cause you know in your heart babe
Our love will never end, no

You'll always be a part of me
I'm part of you indefinitely
Boy don't you know you can't escape me
Ooh darling, 'cause you'll always be my baby

And we'll linger on and on
Time can't erase a feeling this strong
No way you're never gonna shake me


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Hood Love -Mary J. Blige & Trey Songz

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Unappreciated -Cherish

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Love On Top (Live VMA Performane 2011) -Beyonce

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Quote Of The Week: Britney Spears

"If you feel it, let it happen."
 -Britney Spears



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Poem Of The Week: I Want To Love You

I Want To Love You
By Floetfre Styl


I want to love you, let me have that satisfaction, I need some love too, intimate
interaction. Give me the whole you, I am no good with fractions, but these are just words
Boo, best to watch my actions.

I know we fight a lot, about things that we ain't got. That's alright, in the middle of the
night, we have a lot. A secure place to be, when you're sleeping by me, lose all
vulnerabilities, forget negativity, temporarily.

I'll be the first to admit, I give you hell, I'm hard to live with. I'm still learning myself
and how to give, To let someone in, that place where I live.

Listen to me, I'm expressing myself, whispering things I won't tell no one else. Telling
the secrets of how my heart beats, sharing the feelings of triumph and defeat, I've had to meet.

It's nice to be able to open up this way, I appreciate that you care what I say, or pretend
to anyway. That's okay, just listen, loving you is not a choice, but a decision.


Poem Source:http://www.ctadams.com/floet1.html



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Skin -Rhianna

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How To Beat The Odds: Tips From The Very Married

By Marie Hartwell-Walker, Ed.D.

The statistics can seem daunting. The U.S. divorce rate, although in some decline for the last few years, is still close to 50 percent. That brings Americans second only to Sweden for the highest divorce rate in the world! That’s certainly a dubious honor.
But there’s more to the statistics than meets the eye. In fact, 41 percent of first marriages (not half) don’t make it; 60 percent of second marriages and 73 percent of third marriages end in divorce. Apparently practice doesn’t make perfect. The divorces of the several times married skew the statistics and can make first-timers more pessimistic than they need to be.
If you want to be among the almost 60 percent of first marriages and among those in subsequent marriages who do make it work, long-married couples have some tips for you. Follow most of these guidelines most of the time and you’ll up your chances for joining the group of success stories.

A Baker’s Dozen Tips for Making Marriage Last

1. Commit to the commitment. The long-married are those who take their promise seriously. “‘Til death do us part” means exactly that. Divorce is neither an option nor a matter for discussion. Having made the decision to be in it forever (with no loopholes, escape routes, or qualifiers), these couples don’t head to the lawyer’s office or out the door when the inevitable tensions and problems come up. They work on them.
2. Give it all you’ve got. Partners in long-term marriages aren’t in it 50-50. They are in it 100 percent-100 percent. The partners don’t keep a tally on how the other person is doing. They work on making sure they are putting in 100 percent of themselves and they are trusting that the other person is doing the same.
3. Bring a whole person to the marriage. “You complete me” is romantic only in the movies. Long-married couples are made up of two whole people who each have a strong sense of self and an equally strong interest in each other. They each have their own friends, interests, hobbies, and intellectual pursuits. They don’t see themselves as halves of a whole but rather as two wholes who enrich each other. They are rarely bored because they are always learning interesting things from each other.
4. Make time for each other. Separate interests doesn’t mean separate lives. It means enjoying each other’s enjoyment of things that are a mystery to you, learning about each other’s passions, and finding some mutual friends and interests that make for mutual pastimes and shared memories.
5. Be a team. Long-married couples value each other’s contributions and feel that they each are contributing their fair share. Equality doesn’t have to mean sameness. It means that the couple has come to an agreement about what each needs to do to feel equally important and equally respected. Distribution of roles, responsibilities, and decision-making feels mutual and respectful of each partner’s needs.
6. Learn how to engage in friendly fighting. Every couple has disagreements. Committing to the commitment doesn’t protect us from misunderstandings and hurt feelings. But long-married couples see themselves as being on the same team, solving problems, not as being on different teams fighting against each other. When they disagree, the long-married have tools (and rules) for airing discontents and differences respectfully. Friendly fighting means that people stick to the issue and work hard to communicate their own position. They listen respectfully to the other and refrain from name-calling, blaming, and insisting on being right.
7. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Long-married couples let a lot of little stuff go. They know that it is unrealistic to expect perfection. Little habits and annoyances are seen as just that – little – or are thought of as endearing. They don’t make a project of changing little imperfections in the other person that the other person isn’t all that interested in changing.
8. Do sweat the small stuff. On the other hand, people who are in it for life know that little things can add up over time and become big problems. They work on their own bad habits and annoying flaws. They know they won’t ever be perfect but they are willing to put in the effort to improve on things their partner finds irritating.
9. Follow the “golden rule.” Treat each other as you would wish to be treated. If you’d like to be treated with courtesy and kindness, be courteous and kind. There isn’t room for double standards. If you want your partner to trust you, be absolutely trustworthy.
10. Be each other’s greatest fan. Everyone needs to know that the person they are closest to is their best cheerleader and advocate. The very married don’t criticize or correct each other in public. They emphasize the positive. In private, they take care that any complaints are presented respectfully and tactfully. Words of encouragement and positive affirmation are far more common than the negative. They encourage each other’s dreams and provide emotional and practical support to make them possible.
11. Make yourself appealing. It’s true that the fire of sexual attraction does fade with time. As the years go by, you may not be on fire but you can still stir up the coals. Dressing well for each other during the day shows respect for self and for one’s partner. Showering and putting on something a little sexy before bedtime sends the message to your partner that romance continues to be a priority.
12. Respect each other’s families. Every marriage is a cross-cultural experience. Your family of origin probably does things differently than your partner’s. There may be people in each other’s families that you (and maybe even your partner) can’t stand. But it isn’t a big deal to smile through an afternoon, an occasional supper, or a holiday visit. Agree on the boundaries you both want to put around your time with each other and help each other out when the going with family gets rough. You don’t have to love everyone in each other’s families but your partner will love you for not making him or her have to choose between you and the people they love (even if they don’t particularly like them).
13. Make special days special. It’s not about expense. It’s about caring. Partners who are long-married make a big deal out of these days, whether they personally see the point or not. Life hands out lots of reasons to feel sad, discouraged, bored, or blah. The antidote is finding times to let our partner know they are valued and appreciated. Every special day is an “excuse” to make life a little more joyful.

Article Source:http://psychcentral.com/lib/2010/how-to-beat-the-odds-tips-from-the-very-married/


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Lyrics Of The Week: For The First Time

For The First Time
The Script

She's all laid up in bed with a broken heart,
While I'm drinking jack all alone in my local bar,
And we don't know how,
How we got in to this mad situation,
Only doing things out of frustration

Trying to make it work but man these times are hard,

She needs me now but I can't seem to find the time,
I've got a new job now on the unemployment line,
And we don't know how,
How we got into this mess
is it god's test,
Someone help us 'cause we're doing our best,

Trying to make it work but man these times are hard

But we're gonna start by
Drinking old cheap bottles of wine,
Sit talking up all night,
Saying things we haven't for a while
A while ya
We're smiling but we're close tears,
Even after all these years,
We just now got the feeling that we're meeting for the first time

[x3]
Oooooo

She's in line at the DOLE*
With her head held high (high)
While I just lost my job but
Didn't lose my pride

But we both know how,
How we're gonna make it work when it hurts,
When you pick yourself up,
You get kicked to the dirt,

Trying to make it work but,
Man these times are hard,

But we're gonna start by,
Drinking old cheap bottles of wine,
Sit talking up all night,

Doing things we haven't for a while,
A while ya,
We're smiling but we're close to tears,
Even after all these years,
We just now got the feeling that we're meeting for the first time.

Ooooo
[x3]

Yeah.....
Drinking old cheap bottles of wine,
Sit talking up all night,
Saying thing we haven't for a while,
We're smiling but we're close to tears,
Even after all these years,
We just now got the feeling that we're meeting, for the first time

ooooo...., yeahh for the first time
(ooooo....), oh for the first time,
Yeah for the first time,
(just now got the feeling that we're meeting...
For the first time)

[x4]
Oh these times are hard,
Yeah they're making us crazy
Don't give up on me baby


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How Prayer Helps Couples Overcome Relationship Problems

By Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

Couples who pray for one another (not necessarily even praying together) may experience increased forgiveness, compassion, love, and selflessness. These powerful effects of prayer can help ease different types of relationship or marriage problems — no matter what religion or spirituality you practice! Here’s what a psychologist found when studying the effects of praying for a partner…

But first, a quip:

“The trouble with our praying is, we just do it as a last resort.” ~ Will Rogers.
If you only pray for your marriage when you’re having problems, then you’re less likely to enjoy the benefits of a prayer-soaked relationship! Prayer – like any healthy habit – works best when it’s done regularly (but necessarily “religiously”).

 And, here’s how prayer can help married couples overcome difficulties…


Psychological Research and Couples Who Pray for Each Other

Florida State University psychologist Nathaniel Lambert tested the effects of prayer on love relationships. He and his colleagues asked study participants to pray one single prayer for their romantic partner’s well-being. The other participants in the study – the experimental controls – simply described their partner, speaking into a tape recorder.
When Lambert measured forgiveness (or “the diminishing of the initial negative feelings that arise when you’ve been wronged”), he found that people who prayed for their partners harbored fewer vengeful thoughts and emotions. They were more ready to forgive and move on.


How Prayer Helps Couples Solve Relationship Problems

According to this research, couples often profess and believe in shared goals. But, when they face marriage problems, they switch to adversarial goals such as retribution and resentment. These adversarial goals shift the cognitive focus to the self, and it can be tough to shake that self-focus.
Praying for your partner or spouse appears to shift attention from yourself back to others, which allows the resentments to fade. Praying for your spouse, even if you don’t pray together as a couple, can change how you cope with marriage problems. Prayer can help you build a more spiritual relationship with your partner – not by changing him or her, but by changing you.


Prayer May Not Make Marriage Problems Disappear, But…

“Praying opens us to spiritual energy,” writes my “Quips and Tips for Spiritual Seekers” blog partner Gini Grey, in The Healing Effects of Prayer. “This energy flows naturally throughout our body, but it often gets blocked by stuffed emotions, unhealed pain, and negative thinking patterns. When we pray, we surrender to this healing energy and it restores balance to our mind and body.”

And the more balanced our minds and bodies are, the more loving, compassionate, and forgiving we feel towards those around us. These positive feelings don’t just help us overcome marriage problems, they change how we act towards the people in our lives — even those we aren’t romantically involved with, such as coworkers, neighbors, store clerks, children, etc.

Praying for your spouse won’t necessarily prevent different types of relationship problems from occurring. No matter how spiritual or happy your marriage is, there will always be minor annoyances and major life difficulties! Praying offers something even better than the possibility of changing outward circumstances: it empowers you to make the changes you want to see in your life and relationships.



Article Source:http://theadventurouswriter.com/spirituality/how-prayer-helps-couples-overcome-relationship-problems/



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Quote Of The Week: William James

"Whenever you're in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude."  -William James



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Poem Of The Week: Hope In You

Hope in You
-Cheryl


For so long I have hidden away my heart
But something happens when I hear your voice
Feelings and wants come rushing back
My heart taking over in this I have no choice

So many times have I been given false hope
And for once I want to have it be true
To throw caution fully to the wind
Only wanting to believe souly in you

To have the smiles and the laughs
No looking back on the moments only to cry
To keep you in my heart forever
And not having to ask the question why

So now I am gunna give it my all
Close my eyes and see the world through yours
Let my heart and your hand be my guide
No more secrets, no more closed doors.

Poem Source:http://www.short-love-poems.net/short-cute-love-poems.html



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Never Too Much -Luther Vandross

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Lyrics Of The Week: Locked Inside

Locked Inside
Janelle Monae


I'm locked inside
A land called foolish pride
Where the man is always right
He hates to talk but loves to fight
Is that alright?

On real cold days
He loans us lots of hate
But he says that we must pay
To take it all away
Is that ok?

But I'm asking you will you stay with me
In this land where we are free
And I know it's rough
And you've had enough
But one day we'll be happy

And when I look into the future I see danger in its eyes
Hearts of hatred rule the land while love is left aside
Killing plagues the citizens while music slowly dies
I get frightened, I
See, I get frightened, I...

Oh how, oh how I need you baby
To keep me from going crazy
I really need you baby
Need you to stay

Oh how, oh how I love you baby
These people are so crazy
I really need you baby
Need you to stay

She's quick to fight
For her man but not her rights
Even though it's 3005
When will we end this genocide?
And that's not right
Her children cry
No food to eat and afraid as flies
The color black means it's time to die
And nobody questions why
Cause they're too scared to stop the man

But I'm asking you will you stay with me
In this land where we are free
And I know it's rough
And you've had enough
But one day we'll be happy

When I look into the future
I see danger in its eyes
Babies die before they're born
And no one ever smiles
The writers and the artists, all are paid to tell us lies
To keep us locked inside, they keep us locked inside

Oh how, oh how I need you baby
To keep me from going crazy
I really need you baby
Need you to stay

Oh how, oh how I love you baby
These people are so crazy
I really need you baby
Need you to stay

I can make a change
I can start a fire
Lord, make me love again
Fill me with desire

I can make a change
I can start a fire
Make me love again
Lord, thank You for desire

And when I look into your pretty eyes I almost want to cry
I think about my life and I don't want to live a lie
How I need you baby, I need you right by my side
I need you tonight, I need you tonight

Yeah! How I need you baby
See I can't let you go, I need you
On the other side
On the other side

I love you so and I'll never let you go
On the other side!

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The Power Of Love -Stephanie Mills

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Oh Maker -Janelle Monae

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Quote Of The Week: Mort Katz

"Love is its own aphrodisiac and is the main ingredient for lasting sex." – Mort Katz


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Battlefield -Jordin Sparks

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Do We Need Real Sex Ed In Schools?

By Dan and Jennifer


Sex education in schools – if you have a child , it’s undoubtedly something you’re going to encounter at some point during your child’s school education. You’ll want to know what your child is learning – but does that mean that those of us who do not have children should be unconcerned about the sex education that our children as a society are being taught? Not hardly – there are too many limitations placed on sex ed these days in school that the lack of comprehensive sex education is truly an epidemic of large proportions.

What do you think? Should we educate our kids about sex and how to be safe, or tell them to pretend all their friends aren’t having sex and hope for the best? Education or ignorance?Watch discussion here! 

Abstinence Only?

Every sex education program needs to include abstinence. It is a great choice for teens of all ages, because it keeps them completely safe from pregnancy, STD’s and emotional damage until they’re ready for it. But abstinence is just that – a choice. There are other choices when it comes to sex ed, mainly deciding to have sex and have protected or unprotected sex. It’s a choice that many of our teens today are making – they’re making the decisions, so why aren’t we talking to them about it?
According to a 2006 study from the Guttmacher Institute, abstinence only programs make up the sex education curriculum in half of the schools in the southern United States and 1 in 5 schools in the northern part of the U.S. Many schools absolutely forbid education on safer sex, such as education about available contraceptives. Some abstinence only education curriculums do touch on sexually transmitted diseases, if only to scare teens into becoming abstinent, and some touch on male and female anatomy and how babies are born.

 

Government Control?

Why are the schools in the United States choosing abstinent only curriculum? Waiting until marriage to have sex is largely a religious concept, and with the separation of church and state, schools are no longer allowed to have prayer in schools – so why are they promoting a form of sex education that is founded on religion? A little digging unearths some unsettling facts. $176 million dollars in government funding is available to schools in the United States who promote an abstinence only sex education program. $0 is available to schools in the United States who choose to teach comprehensive sex ed in their classrooms. The federal guidelines for sexual activity include anything that is sexually arousing – including kissing and hugging – and federal guidelines for these sex ed programs require teachers to suggest that sex outside of marriage is wrong and unsafe at any age.

 

Teens Will Choose To Have Sex – So What Do We Do?

Teaching abstinence in schools doesn’t automatically shut off a teenager’s hormones. It doesn’t suddenly make them not want to have sex, especially when our marketing, television shows and commericals, movies and music promote sex and sexuality at every turn. Our job as parents – and as a civilized society – is to teach children about all of their choices, including the choices to have sex both protected and unprotected. Knowledge is power and children deserve to know what their options are, including what can happen with each choice. Children deserve to know how you feel about sex and what you expect of them, as well as how to learn what they expect of themselves. A properly educated teenager may choose not to have sex at all, or they may choose to have safe, protected sex with someone they care about when they are ready. Uneducated or poorly educated children will not know what to do when a sexual situation arises, when they don’t understand why they should say no, or what to do when their bodies are telling them to do something entirely different. They may choose to have sex, but they may not know that there are options available to help make sex safer for both them and their partners, so they may end up pregnant or with a sexually transmitted diseases.
Perhaps it’s too soon to hope that the federal government will fund comprehensive sex education, but it certainly something we can take into our own hands. Find out what they’re teaching at your child’s school, and fill in the gaps. Give your children the power to choose – and to choose wisely.


ArticleSource:http://www.askdanandjennifer.com/sex-intimacy/censorship-sexual-repression/real-sex-ed-in-schools-video/



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Lyrics Of The Week: I Wanna Be Down

I Wanna Be Down
-Brandy

I would like to get to know if I could be
The kind of girl you that you could be down for
Cuz when I look at you I feel something tell me
That your the kind of guy that I should make a move on
And if I don't let you know
Then I won't be for real
I could be wrong but I feel like something could be going on
The more I see you the more that it becomes so true
There ain't no other for me it's only you

I wanna be down with what you're going through
I wanna be down I wanna be down with you
No matter the time of day or night it's true
I wanna be do___wn

I know anybody's gonna be lonely
Without the reason they got someone to care for
Maybe all you need's a shoulder to cry on
If that's a fact than I'll be more than you ever could dream of (Oh)
If all you need is my time that I got plenty of
I'll dedicate all my love until you call baby yeah
I wanna stay by your side
Be there to cool you out
And let you know everything will be all right

I wanna be down (O yea) with what you're going through (yea)
I wanna be down (I wanna be down) I wanna be down with (with you) you
No matter the time (No mattetr the time) of day or night it's true
I wanna (got to be) be do___wn

I wanna be down (Ohhh yea) with what you're goin through
I wanna be down (I wanna be down, you, I wanna be down) I wanna be down with you
No matter the time (NO MATTER THE TIME OF DAY OR NIGHT IT's TRUE)
I wanna be do___wn

Down,down,do__wn,
Oh yea
ye_____ah
down (down), down (down), down

I wanna be down (I WANNA BE DOWN with only you my baby) with what you're going through
I wanna be DOWN (I wanna be down with only you)
no matter the time (O yea) of day or night it's true
I wanna be do___wn (wanna be gotta be do___wn)
I wanna be down
(I wanna be, I got to be, I wanna be IT!) with what you're going through
I wanna be down, I wanna be down with you
no matter the time of day or night it's true (oh yea) I wanna be do___Wn (Oh down)
*fade*


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Down -Jay Sean & Lil' Wayne

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Benefits of Couples Giving Each Other a Massage

Beyond any romantic or erotic benefits of couples giving each other massage is the effect that massage has on your nervous system. The sympathetic nervous system deals with stress; the fight-or-flight response. When you have the urge to fight or flee, certain functions of your body are restricted and your bloodstream is flushed with stimulants and other chemicals that are produced in crisis.

Massage Provokes the Parasympathetic Nervous System
The parasympathetic nervous system produces the relaxation response. When you are relaxed and feel safe, your body digests food properly and removes toxins from your tissues and blood; your heart rate slows and your blood pressure eases. When a person can create this response in another human being, the bond that is forged can be substantial.

For massage to work for the couple it is best that one partner focus on the other. The goal of the person giving the massage is to guide their partner into relaxation. The goal of the person receiving the massage is to relax. Relaxation is not easy to achieve, so be patient with each other.

Couples Massage and Conflict in the Relationship
For a massage between couples to work well, any conflicts in the relationship have to be eclipsed by a shared sense of caring. If the person giving the massage is in a bad mood, this will be obvious to the person receiving the massage, and there will be no chance that the person will relax.

The most powerful element in massage is safe touch, which is touch that has no potential to lead to sexual activity. Trust is built on safe touch. Touch is so critical to human beings that infants denied touch fail to thrive. In England in World War II, orphaned babies were fed on schedule and kept clean but they were not held. Many of the babies never saw their first birthdays.

What to Do, What Not to Do
Use a massage table; if you don't own one and want one, tables are available on the Internet from manufacturers, and even Walmart.

Have a comfortable place for the receiver to lie down but not too soft so that there is no risk of hyperextension of the lower back.

The massage should be about the massage and not a precursor to sex. The person receiving the massage will find relaxation more easily if they are not anticipating any stimulation.

Do not drink alcohol before or after the massage. Even one glass of wine provokes a host of chemical reactions in the body. Massaging a person who has been drinking puts him at risk for liver damage.

Use a massage lotion or oil with no petroleum products in it.

Communicate. Check out a book on massage and experiment with what works for each of you. Couples who massage each other often experience a deeper trust and bond.


Article Source:http://www.livestrong.com/article/32203-benefits-couples-giving-other-massage/


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Reflections On Relationships

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