National Institute of Justice estimates that 1.5 million women are victims of domestic violence each year. In that same year 835,000 men are abused by women. It is said that whereas every 21 seconds somewhere in America a woman is battered - but every 38 seconds somewhere in America a man is battered.
Men usually don't report the abuse. Men just don't tell, opting to keep it a secret from everyone around them. To them it's embarrassing that they are being physically or mentally abused by a woman. They feel that most people won't believe them. They will make excuses for their injuries. Some of the feelings that they have and why they don't report it to the police is from shame, they are worried that the female will turn the table on them and say that they were abusing her, and thinking that no one will believe him. Some men don't do anything about it because their self worth has been battered as well, and they feel that no one else would ever have them except the woman they are with and they would be alone for the rest of their lives. Some victims just don't want to make a change or they have small children that they want to stay and protect.
The shame that the men feel when they try to get assistance, the ridicule, wondering what if the people at work find out that they are the one that is being abused. They wonder if they will become the joke of the locker rooms. It is harder for a man who is built like a football player to admit that his little petite wife abuses him. Who will ever believe him?
Many stories from men are that most the time the women were never charged even if the men displayed injuries. The "battered man" is hard to prove and to convince people that he is abused.
Most men will pretend that everything is fine at home when they are at work talking about family life keeping the abuse a secret. Maybe only telling one or two close friends if any at all. They will make excuses when asked to go out with the guys after work saying they had other plans when actually they're afraid that the female will go into a rage. So he sacrifices his happiness for hers. He has no life per say. Studies show that women who commit violence against the men in their lives have anger management issues, are likely to abuse their children, yet courts still favor giving the custody of the children to the female evenafter domestic abuse has been proven.
There are shelters out there for woman who are abused the court systems have help for children to get them out of the situation. But for men, they are left out in the cold. It's a hush-hush situation just like incest was at one time. It is now time to bring this epidemic in the public eye. There are many men who are abused daily by their wives, and the support that these men need is not there for them to heal and rebuild their lives.
The news lately has been showing more abuse on men, but its still only after the man had been killed by the woman. Then most of the time the women will claim abuse was committed against them, with the man deceased, it's impossible to question him about the events.
Physical abuse isn't the only abuse men have in relationships, there is verbal assaults that is the screaming, yelling which wears on the self confidence of the man.
The female know how to control the actions of the men, how to make them do only what the female wants them to do, they know how to make the man feel guilty. The female may keep you in such a state of confusion about twisting your words, making the man question his sanity. The stress will take a toll on his body, his emotional well being. The stress will make the man have blood pressure problems, which will lead to other problems.
Domestic abuse against men is occurring daily, just as it does against women. It's not just the females being abused. It's all unacceptable.
source:
http://www.batteredmen.com/
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