Getting Through The Tough Times In Your Relationship

by Mark Webb

Every marriage will go through times of challenge. Some marriages will be strengthened while others will be destroyed. Tough times may be as common as financial problems or the aftermath of a hurtful argument. Marriages may suffer as the result of a miscarriage or the death of a loved one. Whatever challenge you face, remember this:


It is better to be prepared for tough times and not have them than to have tough times and not be prepared.


Here are five of the essential principles to strengthen your relationship and give you an edge during times of adversity.

Be Mindful Not To Worry. If something needs to be fixed, fix it if you can but remember that worry never fixes anything. Worrying is a waste of time and energy. It's like sitting in a rocking chair, it gives you something to do but it gets you nowhere. Worry prevents you from seeing hope and solutions. Besides, most things we worry about never happen.


Be Patient Towards Your Partner. Patience is an excellent remedy for the tough times you will go through. You love your partner so don't choose the moments of crisis to come down on them. Don't let stress sway you into losing perspective. Realize that if you are not careful, adversity can damage your relationship. Stay away from blaming, using criticism to make a point, lecturing, sarcasm and name calling. Everything becomes possible again when love and patience are present.


Practice Forgiveness. It is amazing how quickly someone will turn on the person they love. Don't let upset feelings infect your relationship. Resentments close the door on the possibility of a bright future. Love is a continous act of forgiveness. Everybody likes the idea of forgiveness until they have to be the one to forgive. If you want your relationship to be better than most, you must instill this habit of forgiveness.


Use Your Sense Of Humor. A laughing couple is much stronger than an arguing or withdrawn couple. If you can find humor in the challenge you are facing you can survive it. Laughter dissapates hopelessness. You cannot argue and laugh at the same time. It is impossible. The choice is up to you.


Vow To Stay Connected. Stand together against adversity. Promise to endure throughout the storms that most likely will come your way at some point or another. Staying connected takes practice. People commonly choose to withdraw from each other at times of trouble. This distance may feel safer but it does long term damage to the relationship. If you truly love your partner then vow "We will get through this, Together!"


You are the only one who is responsible for your character. Do not let other people or circumstances determine your actions. If there is goodness in your relationship, then it is worth fighting for. Give your partner a message of committed reassurance. Let them know, "I'm Here For You." and "We Will Get Through This."

Things To Keep In Mind During The Tough Times

*Don't blame each other for the situation.

*Lower your expectations of one another until the crisis subsides. Eat leftovers or fastfood. Don't worry too much about the housework.

*Remind yourself that the tough times won't last forever.

*Don't take advice from people who have a negative attitude.

*Ask for help from family and friends.

*Remember your love and commitment to each other.

*It's okay to let the answering machine take your calls.

*Reduce your stress by exercising and getting plenty of sleep.

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Keeping Your Relationship Happy Through Tough Economic Times

By Victoria Tiegert

There are few, if any, people today who will try to deny that the economy has taken a serious downturn recently. This is causing many people more stress and anxiety than they've ever experienced before. These negative emotional responses are rooted in the financial struggles of their lives, but they spill over into other areas of their lives, as well, such as their relationships, their career satisfaction, and their health.

Depression, both long-term clinical and temporary situational, is becoming evident in more individuals and families than usual. We all need to figure out how to beat the blues and get through this challenging time while keeping our smile and inner peace. Here are some ways that you can do this.

*Prioritize

In most people's lives, there has been a lack of prioritizing in recent years. This is probably because we haven't had to. We could have it all, for the most part. There were jobs available, there was extra money at the end of the month, there were opportunities for investments, and all without having to make much sacrifice to speak of. Today, that has changed. We can't always have it all and must make determinations of what is most important for us.

*Take Back the Controls

That out of control feeling is not a good one for any of us. In order to be in control of your own financial outlook, you need to figure out where you currently are, how you got here, and how you are going to get where you want to be. To do this, you must sit down with your bills and income statements and make a good budget that is going to work for you.

*Back to Basics

For a long time, most of us have lived with things that were not only unnecessary, but also unused. For example, we had a home phone that no one ever used or even paid attention to, yet we paid the bill every month without blinking an eye. We recently got rid of it and haven't missed it a bit. How many things can you think of that you are paying for but not really getting the benefit of that you once did? Narrowing down our bills to what we actually need helps a lot in cutting down the amount of money that we need for our expenses.

*Time over Money

Tips To Make Your Partner Love You Today And Every Day

By Nafa Danfad

Being in love is bliss. Every one of you here would wish to throw yourself into it. Just envisage the butterflies in your stomach when you fall in love with someone for the first time, and how much you do not want that moment to end.

That hypothetically marks the beginning of a powerful bond being created by two people who have been head over heels for each other. Unfortunately...that may not sum up the relationship you wish to get yourselves into.

And that sparkling jiffy does not affirm the everlasting love that it should be...So here is the question of the day, "How can I make my relationship stay intact forever?"

The primary hurdle in a relationship is the inborn difference between a man and a woman. Well, as the saying goes, one man's meat is another man's poison. What a man likes may not be well liked by the woman, and vice versa. So the key to winning each other's heart at all times...is by understanding the needs and wants of the opposite sex.

Here are some tips for both the men and the women to take note:

1. It is alright for a man to be short-tempered, but only if there is a valid reason to back that up, such as if you have found out that your girlfriend is evidently betraying you. Sometimes a man likes to make the girlfriend the 'punching bag' after a bad day. Still, try to grip hold of yourself. You can always talk it out, and rest assured, she would give you her listening ear.

2. A woman can get so carried away by her emotions that she may flout the fact that the man needs to be emotionally comforted too. So if you know that he is facing a calamity and needs to be heard, try to set aside your problems first and help him out. You must take into account that his problem may be bigger than yours, and that these problems may turn him into someone you do not wish to see. So give him some space. And then when he feels a little bit better, you are all set to tell yours to him.

3. A woman would never ask for anything more than just love, attention and empathy. So to the man, try to look at these aspects as something that is not such a big burden to carry. After all, they do not cost you money. All you need to do is just spend a little time making her smile.

4. This is especially a great idea for the woman. Cook something! Because your cooking can make the relationship go a long way. After all, the key to his heart is by filling his empty stomach.

5. The woman should put a smile on the face. A woman's smile can bring peace to the heart and mind. And if the man gets to see it, it would brighten up his darker moments.

6. With the presence of technology, there is not much of an excuse for you not to make a call or send a text message. Set aside just a few seconds or minutes off your busy time, and that would make his or her day and night complete.

7. When one turns into fire, the other should be the water to put the fire out. Yes! That is so vital, and would be pleasing to each other.

8. Come what may, just stick with each other. Both of you will feel lucky to have each other and make you just want to be with each other for life.

Now those are what it takes to keep the relationship rolling! To all couples, may your love life stay strong and blissful till the end of time!

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5 of The Most Unique Wedding Themes

You are planning your dream wedding, this time its for real. This is a once-in-a-lifetime event in your life. Of course, you want it to be the most beautiful and the most unique of weddings. This should be the incomparable to those weddings you have attended before.

You want to think of a unique theme for the wedding that should be a cut above the rest. Let me give you some unique ideas that you could use or incorporate into your wedding.

1. Elvis Presley Wedding
If you are die-hard fan of Elvis Presley and you want to hold your unique wedding in Las Vegas, the Graceland Wedding Chapel, concocted a wedding ceremony highlighting Elvis Presley. Its as if Elvis were truly there! You could even request Elvis to walk the bride down the aisle and give her to the groom. He will also double as the entertainer as he serenades you with his famous love songs.

2. Celestial Wedding
You want a wedding that’s made in heaven? Plan one that includes giveaways designed as angels, stars or moons. Place cards can be placed in angel candle placecard holders. Plastic golden star garlands will add beauty and romance to doorways, tables and paths. For table centerpieces, dump crystal stars and moons in different colors in fishbowls or star-shaped bowls.

3. Grand Canyon Helicopter Wedding
Your wedding day should be a memorable one. Who would ever forget if you got married right at the bottom of Grand Canyon, 4000 feet below, in a helicopter. You would enjoy a wedding right at the banks of the famous Colorado River. After the wedding, you ascend in the helicopter and be met with a limousine and spend the night in Las Vegas.

4. Your Favorite Animal or Insect Wedding
It would be truly one-of-a-kind if you designed your wedding around your favorite animal or insect. Doves, butterflies and dolphins are beautiful creatures that would add beauty to your wedding set. Give-aways in crystal or ceramics designed as butterflies or dolphins are truly loveable. Centerpieces carrying the same animals or insects would bring even better effect to your wedding.

5. Wedding Filled With Big Band Music
What a fun wedding it would be if a big band played music all-night long at your wedding reception. Music of the 30s or 40s is a unique era that would enliven everyone present. To go with the music, the bride could wear a slim suit with drop shoulder and full length gloves. A netted face veil on a hat is fitting for the outfit. The groom, on the other hand, could go for a suit in pin stripes or army theme. The invitation could include a picture of the bride and groom in black and white to make it look really antique. The dance floor could be filled with balloons just like in the 30s or 40s.

Given these wonderful unique ideas, you could set forth to finding the right theme for your wedding. There are millions of places to look for those unique wedding accessories, cakes, decors, invitations and give-aways. It would just take much patience to design the perfect and unique wedding that only you could design.
hopefully useful!

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