Clarifying Relationships [Part-2]

-Heavenly


Different Types Of Relationships:

[Friends With Benefits]- This is the type of relationship that is based on sex and really not much more. Two people have an understanding that they are not a couple..just friends...who have great sex together. They rarely (if ever) go out places together...just chill at either of their homes or a hotel room and have sex. This is the type of relationship many people would like to have but think that it is almost impossible to get so they pretend as if they want a more committed or more serious relationship because they think that is what they have to do to get sex on a regular basis. This is really not necessary...and why hurt another human being by tricking them into an empty relationship just so you can get regularly laid?? There are plenty of people who will gladly be in this type of relationship...as long as you be straight up and tell them what you want. People are often too scared to be honest with people about what they want, but as the saying goes "a closed mouth doesn't get fed"...how do expect something from someone if they don't even know you want it?...you can't.


[Dating]- When in this type of relationship there may be one or two other people that you may also be dating. At this point there is still no real commitment; this is really where you are trying to decide who you want to be in a committed relationship with. You might go on dates, just hang out with each other, and may or may not be having sex at this point, but it is understood between you and whoever else you may be dating that they are not the only one. You date people who you really enjoy and could potentially have a long lasting committed relationship with.

[Couple (semi-serious)]- This is a committed relationship!...and other people know that you have a significant other. You are only intimate with your partner and nobody else. Some people have what they call "open" relationships (if you can't tell...I'm not too fond of these but...) and that is fine as long as both of you are aware that is the case...do NOT try to be in a "one-sided open" relationship, where you are the only one allowed to be with other people because it is wrong and will always backfire on you!! Your partner may not have met everyone in your life but this is where you make sure the closest people to you (family and friends) know who your partner is and your partner should definitely be in the process of really being an important part in your life. You may or may not tell one another that you love each other yet...but it is clear that you care strongly for your partner and hope to have a long-term relationship with them.

[Serious Couple]-This is also a committed relationship...what makes this different from a semi-serious couple is that you may be living together and it also includes being engaged. Moving in with your partner is really a HUGE step, so it is imperative that you think long and hard about it as well as discussing with your partner the terms of you both living together...there are many things you will need to be clear on when making a move like this. At this point, your relationship normally has had its ups and downs but is stronger and you both are secure in your relationship....your relationship is pretty much solid(...solid as a rock! [lol]...) When you are a serious couple it should be no problem to tell your partner that you love them...your relationship at this point should be very comfortable for both of you...you should be able to talk to your partner about pretty much anything, fart around them, eat off each others plate, sleep together, know each others friends and family....things like that. Being a serious couple is like the step right before marriage...whether it is a "short step or a long step"...meaning just because it is the step before marriage does not mean marriage will have to come immediately..it may be years down the road..nevertheless, it IS the next step!
[Marriage]- This pretty much speaks for itself...marriage is a life long commitment...I know that nowadays it is not really viewed as such but that does NOT change the fact that marriage really is a sacred union to be respected and reserved for people in love. If you cheat on your partner at this point you are dead wrong!! Some married people have and "open" relationship...but when this is the case it is agreed upon beforehand by both of you....but open marriage or not...if you are not ready to make a life-long commitment to your partner to not propose or agree to get married...period!



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