Reasons To Love

When love is new and fresh, we can't stop thinking about what turns us on about our partner. The way her nose crinkles when she smiles; his strong, tanned forearms. We can reflect on time spent together and parlay those memories into fantasy until we are together again. The reasons to love someone are unending if we choose to consider them. Sadly, it's becoming more common to find ourselves in the middle of a breakup that takes us by surprise.

In life, we need to know what we want in order to know what we don't want. It works the same with love. There were definite traits about your partner that you found extremely appealing when you fell in love and most likely a number of opposite traits you would have found unattractive. We have to find reasons to love someone and then we have to keep on finding them. People thrive on positive reinforcement. Everyone. This may not be their number one language of love but words of affirmation go a long way toward making your partner feel appreciated. If your partner knows that what they do for you and your relationship hasn't gone unnoticed, you can be certain they are going to feel warmly toward you.

When we are kind to and appreciative of the special people in our lives, we cultivate more loving responses from them. It really is a two way street. Unfortunately, we tend to let everyday stresses become the focus of our attention and then the reasons to love someone escape us.

Very few people on this earth are telepathic -- very few are psychic. Yet we repeatedly get upset with a partner for not knowing what we want them to do (or not do) despite the fact that we never filled them in on it. We expect them to read our minds--an expectation that seems to expand with the time spent together as a couple.

When we stop communicating with each other, we stop growing as a couple. We aren't dreaming of the next house we want to buy, where we want to spend our next vacation, what our kids may grow up to be. If we stop talking we aren't encouraging the other, we aren't letting our partner know what we want. But, if the lines of communication are open, if you've asked your partner questions about what he orshe wants and doesn't want -- asked probing questions on all kinds of subjects, then you are in sync. Real harmony can be achieved and you'll find the reasons to love your partner growing every day.


Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/1420976


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Lyrics Of The Week: Sandcastle Disco

Sandcastle Disco
-Solange


Who would've known the wind and the sunshine,
Would oh baby, baby, build up these walls of mine,
And I can't see you or breathe you,
Cause there's trouble right beneath you,
It's all in the night, but ohh baby, baby,
come pick me up in your ride,
I'm a cool old Jane with a skip on my feet,
I play tough as nails with my heart on my sleeve,
I'm nothing but a sandcastle, baby don't blow me away
Away...
Chorus.
Baby I know, you do that to all the girls you know that I'm fragile
Bay-b-b-b-baby, don't blow me away,
Baby I know, you do that to all the girls you know that I'm fragile
Bay-b-b-b-baby, don't blow me away
Who would've known the storms of my past times,
Would oh baby, make me, losing the song of the eye[?]
And I can't believe you or read you,
Cause there's pleasure in your preview;it's all in your eyes,
But oh Mr. D.J, baby... can you meet me outside?
You're an old school dude with the kick on your shoes,
You got groove in your hands, the way you spin those tunes,
I'm nothing but a sandcastle, baby don't blow me away,
Away...

Chorus.
Baby I know, you do this to all the girls, baby I'm fragile
Bay-b-b-b-baby, don't blow me away,
Baby I know, you do that to all the girls you know that I'm fragile
Bay-b-b-b-baby, don't blow me away
Oo and just like the ocean (just like the ocean baby)
He's right there behind me, look over my sandcastle,
And there's a sight to see, don't blow me away...
Don't blow me baby
Bah bah bah bah bah bah bah bah bah bah bah bah bah bah...
Oo baby I know, you do that to all the girls you know that I'm fragile
Bay-b-b-b-baby, don't blow me away,
Baby I know, you do that to all the girls you know that I'm fragile
And bay-b-b-b-baby, please don't blow me away
Away...away [3x]




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Sandcastle Disco -Solange

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Givin' Me A Rush -Tyra B

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Date Night Ideas for Couples

Every couple should have a “date night”. This is one night out of the week that you spend together doing something fun and different. If you’re having trouble coming up with new ideas for your dates, or are interested in starting a date night tradition with your sweetie, then read on!


Play Board Games
Try LoveGames.com for an overview of romantic and sensual games for couples. You could also go with traditional games such as Monopoly, Scrabble or Sorry. To add a romantic twist to Scrabble, modify it with the rule that all words you spell have to be on the topic of love and romance. For a huge selection of boardgames you can buy online check out BoardGames.com!

Cook Dinner Together
If you’re looking for great recipes there are plenty of websites where you can search and then print out recipes to try together. We recommend Cooking.com, the recipes are easy to search, tested, and most include a picture.

Movie Night
Cuddle up and watch a movie together. Don’t forget the snacks! If you live near a drive-in movie theatre this is a must.

Have a Romantic Evening at Home
Order take-out, indulge in a bath together with bubbles and candles, massage each other, make love.

Go House Viewing
Take a drive, or walk in a neighborhood you’de like to live in and pick out your favorite houses. On the weekends you might be able to visit open houses and tour homes that are for sale.

Enjoy a Night Out On the Town
Catch a movie or street festival, a dance, a play at the theatre or high school.

Star Gazing
Find a place away from the city lights to star gaze with your sweetie. Bring a blanket and bug repellent.

Learn to Dance
Sign up to take dance lessons once a week with your hunny.

Go Dancing
If you already know how to dance visit a nightclub that plays music you like and party like buddies.

Learn Something
Take a one-time class together. Call your local information office to find out if your city offers a fun, one-night class such as cooking, painting or pottery.

Visit a Museum
If a regular history museum screams “boring”, look into whether your city has an art museum or exhibit, a “Ripley’s Believe It or Not museum”, a wax museum, cultural museum, artifact museum, war museum or museum related to a major event from the past (ex. the Titanic museum).

Play Together
Go bowling, play pool, minigolf, iceskate or inline skating.

Get to Know your City
Visit an aquacultural or environmental tourist attraction in your city. Ideas: biodome, aquarium, planetarium, arbouritarium, botanical garden, etc.


Article Source:http://www.getromantic.com/romance/romance_tips/date_night_for_couples.html



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Quote Of The Week: George Sands

"There is only one happiness in life,
to love and be loved."
-George Sands



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Poem Of The Week: Don't Understand

Don't Understand
By Etienne Bryant


I don't understand how people
can stay in a realtionship and hurt.
I don't understand how people
mistake feelings for love.
I don't understand how people,
just do not have the courage to leave.
I don't understand how people,
hate the feeling of being lonely.
I don't undertand how people,
look any and everywhere for love.
I don't understand how people,
let jealousy take over.
I don't understand how people,
fall so quickly.
I don't understand how people,
put thereself last and others first.
I guess I don't understand
Myself.


Article Source:http://www.ctadams.com/bryant4.html



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Use Somebody -Kings Of Leon

Gone And Never Comin Back -Melanie Fiona

All I Could Do Was Cry -Beyonce (Etta James)

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I'd Rather Go Blind - Beyonce (Etta James)

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Eight Ways To Spring Clean Your Relationship

Are there some dust bunnies and cobwebs in your relationship that need cleaning out? Here's how.

By Lori Lowe

I’ve been cleaning out a lot of closets lately, and going through old boxes in the basement. Isn’t it embarrassing all the stuff we accumulate over the years? I found some head phones from the 1980s! Spring is the ideal time for organizing our lives—clearing out the old, decluttering, and trying to make our environment a little more pleasing. I feel more in control of my life when things around me are more in order.


Where in our relationships can we use a little spring cleaning? Here are some ideas for spring cleaning your marriage:

1. Clear the air. Are there any conversations you have been avoiding, or arguments that have come up a few times? Schedule a time for a heart-to-heart. Shine the sunlight on issues that are becoming problematic, such as financial strain

2. Make room for new experiences. Look at your calendar of commitments. Do you need to free up one night a week as a couple or as a family?

3. If you’ve been building up resentment, it’s time to dust it off and unload past hurts. Tell your spouse you want to move past these things, but you'd like to share your feelings about why these incidents hurt you. Allow yourself time to see that your partner is different today. Give your spouse the opportunity to apologize and make things right. Then FORGIVE him or her and MOVE ON. While it’s important to give voice to your hurts, you have to be willing to stop bringing them up once you’ve worked through them with your partner. Consider it old baggage, and haul it away. Start fresh.

4. Are there proverbial cobwebs around the marital bed? Take the necessary steps to reconnect and clear them out. Start with communicating about how you got to this point (without blame) and what would help you to feel more intimate with your partner. If you can’t make progress here on your own, get help. Sexual intimacy is vital to marital renewal.

5. Give thought to spiffing up your appearance. Has it been a while since you cleaned out the closet and cleared out ill-fitting clothes and old sweat pants? Consider updating your hair, makeup or wardrobe if it’s gotten lax. Pack away the flannel PJs for next winter. Prepare and eat healthy meals that leave you feeling energetic not bogged down. Enjoy the confidence that the shiny new you brings.

6. Clean and organize areas where you spend the most time. In addition to the figurative spring cleaning, a literal cleaning can give your family a boost of energy. Keep your bedroom clutter to a minimum—and leave the TV in another room. Find strategies and storage for dealing with the high-traffic daily clutter, such as mail and school papers.

7. Check tarnished relationships. If negative friendships or family stresses are contributing to marital disharmony, give them a good scrubbing. Be united as a couple, and set boundaries where needed. All your friends should be supportive of your marriage, or they may not be the friends you think they are. Family disputes: Apologize to those you need to apologize to, and set family relationships right when you can. This will save a lot of time and stress in your marriage.

8. Keep it maintained. Just like we can’t clean our houses once in the spring then forget about it (oh, how I wish it would last for at least a week), we have to work on keeping our marriages renewed and fresh. Find something new and exciting to do this month, and get it on the calendar. And repeat the above steps as needed.



Article Source:http://www.yourtango.com/experts/lori-lowe/8-ways-spring-clean-your-relationship



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Deserves You More -Musiq Soulchild

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Lyrics Of The Week: Deserves You More

Deserves You MorE
-Music Souldchild


Who, tell me who baby knows you better than I do
Said it out your own mouth
I aint even got to say it (ooh)
you aint got to make an issue (ooh)
I aint trying to play the victim (ooh)
I'm just trying to make this thing right


How could you think that I could ever be better without you
I mean, i could go a few months
But everyday girl I'd be missing you
For me to send you off to another dude
the thought of it is so depressing
You & I both know that we needs this that why


I'm explaining...what I'm fighting for
girl, theres no one who deserves you more
so stop subscribing to those crazy folks
cause there's no one who deserves you more
who gave you love?
dont change on me. dont change baby
I'll go halfcrazy if you choose to leave
Thats why I'm explaining...what I'm fighting for
girl, theres no one who deserves you more
deserves you more...


We don't often talk about it baby but we know its true
its true, that you were insecure once
cause someone really did you dirty
But I encouraged you to make it through
Showed you special was apart of you
You did the same for me too


So girl I thank you and I'm so thankful
for the times where we rise and we fall
nights when we laugh and we talk
lt's not break up, lets be grateful
that the strain of our arguements only brought us closer spite of it all


I'm explaining...what I'm fighting for
girl, theres no one who deserves you more
so stop subscribing to those crazy thoughts
cause there's no one who deserves you more
who gave you love?
dont change on me. dont change baby
I'll go halfcrazy if you choose to leave
Thats why I'm explaining...what I'm fighting for
girl, theres no one who deserves you more


We spend more time on our problems
instead of trying to work them out to get better
However, lets turn this negative into a positive baby
You believe in you and I
I feel theres a need to try
If I don't fight, i'll regret it for the rest of my life


I'm explaining...what I'm fighting for
girl, theres no one who deserves you more
so stop subscribing to those crazy thoughts
cause there's no one who deserves you more
who gave you love?
dont change baby, dont change baby
I'll go halfcrazy if you choose to leave
Thats why I'm explaining...what I'm fighting for
girl, theres no one who deserves you more



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Dontchange -Musiq Souldchild

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Teachme -Musiq Soulchild

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Getting Through The Tough Times In Your Relationship

by Mark Webb

Every marriage will go through times of challenge. Some marriages will be strengthened while others will be destroyed. Tough times may be as common as financial problems or the aftermath of a hurtful argument. Marriages may suffer as the result of a miscarriage or the death of a loved one. Whatever challenge you face, remember this:


It is better to be prepared for tough times and not have them than to have tough times and not be prepared.


Here are five of the essential principles to strengthen your relationship and give you an edge during times of adversity.

Be Mindful Not To Worry. If something needs to be fixed, fix it if you can but remember that worry never fixes anything. Worrying is a waste of time and energy. It's like sitting in a rocking chair, it gives you something to do but it gets you nowhere. Worry prevents you from seeing hope and solutions. Besides, most things we worry about never happen.


Be Patient Towards Your Partner. Patience is an excellent remedy for the tough times you will go through. You love your partner so don't choose the moments of crisis to come down on them. Don't let stress sway you into losing perspective. Realize that if you are not careful, adversity can damage your relationship. Stay away from blaming, using criticism to make a point, lecturing, sarcasm and name calling. Everything becomes possible again when love and patience are present.


Practice Forgiveness. It is amazing how quickly someone will turn on the person they love. Don't let upset feelings infect your relationship. Resentments close the door on the possibility of a bright future. Love is a continous act of forgiveness. Everybody likes the idea of forgiveness until they have to be the one to forgive. If you want your relationship to be better than most, you must instill this habit of forgiveness.


Use Your Sense Of Humor. A laughing couple is much stronger than an arguing or withdrawn couple. If you can find humor in the challenge you are facing you can survive it. Laughter dissapates hopelessness. You cannot argue and laugh at the same time. It is impossible. The choice is up to you.


Vow To Stay Connected. Stand together against adversity. Promise to endure throughout the storms that most likely will come your way at some point or another. Staying connected takes practice. People commonly choose to withdraw from each other at times of trouble. This distance may feel safer but it does long term damage to the relationship. If you truly love your partner then vow "We will get through this, Together!"


You are the only one who is responsible for your character. Do not let other people or circumstances determine your actions. If there is goodness in your relationship, then it is worth fighting for. Give your partner a message of committed reassurance. Let them know, "I'm Here For You." and "We Will Get Through This."

Things To Keep In Mind During The Tough Times

*Don't blame each other for the situation.

*Lower your expectations of one another until the crisis subsides. Eat leftovers or fastfood. Don't worry too much about the housework.

*Remind yourself that the tough times won't last forever.

*Don't take advice from people who have a negative attitude.

*Ask for help from family and friends.

*Remember your love and commitment to each other.

*It's okay to let the answering machine take your calls.

*Reduce your stress by exercising and getting plenty of sleep.

Article Source:http://www.thenewhomemaker.com/toughtimes



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Practicing Patience in Relationships

One of the best things you can have in a relationship, whether it is with a friend, or a family member is patience. Patience is one of the key ingredients to love, and love is essential to a relationship that works and lasts.


Love is a motivator, and a powerful one. With the love that patience inspires you have the key to so much more in a relationship. Love motivates us to work harder to be kinder, to learn more, to do more, and to grow more in our relationships. This means having the satisfaction, gratification, and joy that is found in deep, meaningful, and lasting relationships.


Patience will help you respond positively in a negative situation. Negative situations arise, and often, in relationships. When you are that close to someone, and expose your weaknesses, it is easy to exploit those and have negativity, but when you practice patience, it allows you to not overreact, or do something you will later regret, instead it helps you to be calm and positive.


Impatience brings out the worst in other people. It causes people to overreact, and act foolishly. If you are impatient you inspire negativity in others. This can't be good for relationships. When you are impatient with someone you cause them to bristle. Their defenses go out, and they go on guard, and pretty soon, instead of being rational, and discussing things, and moving forward in your relationship, you get in a shouting match where hurtful, stupid things come out.


Patience stops problems in their tracks. It is hard to be angry with someone when they are patient with you. It is hard to yell at someone when they won't yell back. When you practice patience, you inspire patience in others, which leads to problems having no foothold in your relationship.


Patience makes us wise. If you are patient, you do not blurt out things you will later regret. It allows you to have a complete picture before you act, and thus you act far more wisely. Who doesn't want to be wise in their relationships?


Patience fosters peace and quiet. Patient people do not run around causing havoc. Patience in relationships allows you to grow love because it creates the peaceful quiet environment needed for that love to grow.


Patience allows for human error. No one is perfect, if you practice patience you will recognize this, and thus allow those that you are in a relationship with to be human. It is amazing what this will do for a relationship. When you recognize their humanity, and thus propensity for error, you stop expecting perfection, and start loving the person, flaws and all. If you have ever had someone accept you for you, you know how powerful that can be, and how much of a bond that can forge in a relationship.
Relationships where both parties see the human in the other person are far stronger because it takes more than a misunderstanding, or a few harsh words to ruin the relationship.



Article Source:http://www.improvingyourworld.com/finances/practicing_patience_in_relationships_006050.html



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Tyrese and Leon Timbo Freestyle

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Sade- By Your Side

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